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Re: Please help!! From Dreambaby to a nightmare
Nov 13, 2008 7:41 PM
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Thank you so much for your replay.
Sometimes it is really hard for me to keep my cool as well.
I am european and got fire in my temprament, if you know what I mean.
I love my girls and just want to teach them right, but once they turn into this bad tempa, I just don't know what to do.
I tried the take out in another room and talking, I try to get her more involed in my cooking and other things, but hard when the youngest wants to do the same.
It really isn't easy being a mom, so FULL RESPECT to everyone who got more then one child!!!
Thanks again for the replay!
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!!! My babies are the world to me !!!
Mama born August '76
Dad born June '71
First Girl born September '05
Second Girl born June '07
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Re: Please help!! From Dreambaby to a nightmare
Nov 11, 2008 2:51 PM
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FIrst of all I want to send you a hug. I too have a 3 yr old and I know exactly what your going through. I found my help on the net just as you too are seeking answers. Sometimes even when we have other children we just never came across this particular behavior and run out of answers.
This is what I've learned. When I child is rebelling you need to remove them from what ever is causing the upset. Pick them up or escort them to another room. Get a book or a quite toy and sit with them as you explain that the behavior that they exhibiting before you removed them is not exceptable and that it hurts sisters feelings or mom's or what ever the situation calls for. ((Even when the child is still up set you can find a quiet ground to even help you calm down in the heat of the situation. Removal and discussion letting the child know what she can do to make the situation a happier one for her and others involved. I can't make a specific suggestion on a certain top cause we all know that 3 yr old can be difficult. Adding younger siblings to the mix also makes it very hard for them trying to figure out their place in it all. Going from the baby to the big girl is a hard transition that you need to remember. SO taking time out to make her feel special wheather its helping mom cook in the kitchen, clean the table or getting you a diaper or rubbing your tummy she needs to fell important. So when the upset arises take her away by distraction. Good luck and hope that things get better. HUGS.
Stay at home MOM of four 19,8,3,7m
Nightowlmama
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mom of 4
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Re: Please help!! From Dreambaby to a nightmare
Nov 5, 2008 7:31 AM
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it sounds like she is screaming for some boundries. i have 4 kids, 16,5,4,2 and number 5 is due in march. you have waited 3 yrs. to let her know you are the boss and she doesn't like it, it also sounds like she's a bit jealous of sister. you have to set boundries and rules and then BE CONSISTANT. if your discipline doesn't work maybe it's the consistancy, not the discipline itself. mom and dad both need to be onboard and she still needs her special time with you both and not feeling like she' in sisters shadow. i don't know anything about your family, i'm just sharing what we do in mine. hope this works.
kristy
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Please help!! From Dreambaby to a nightmare
Oct 30, 2008 3:50 PM
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Please anyone could help?...
My dream baby has turned to a real nightmare.
I just don't know anymore what to do with her.
She is now 3 years and 2 months old. I always sad she will never get the terrible two, guess I was wrong.
She is lately a nightmare. She makes me cry so many times, it is sometimes so hard that I have considdered a few times just to leave and leave everything behind me. I mean just walk off and leave both girls with there dad and his family.
I have tried everything, I think. I talked nicely, she won't answer, then when I leave her (out of her room) she cry's. If I threaten her, she rebels.
Time out doesn't work, she find always something so it won't be really a time out. Giving her choices won't work, she always won't something else.
We tell her she can have anything she wants, so long she is a good girl, but even this won't help.
I just don't know anymore what to do.
She got a 22 MO. Younger sister and always wants what her sister got. She is pushing her, yelling at her and always taking her toys away.
They do play nicely together as well, it's not that she hate her sister.
I just want my cute little lovely girl back.
Anyone could help?
Thank you
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!!! My babies are the world to me !!!
Mama born August '76
Dad born June '71
First Girl born September '05
Second Girl born June '07
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