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Re: Anyone else out there single and expecting?
Feb 12, 2009 1:48 PM
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Hi, i just want to say that i'm going through the same situation right now. My fiance for over 3 years decided to move out. I still don't really know why, but i have two children, the oldest is 9 and the youngest is 7, a boy and a girl. I was all set but i met him and my whole life change, he is the man i want for the rest of my life but we can't get alone, we argue too much and are most of the time unhappy. I knew this was going to happen one day but never thought it was going to be when i'm 8 months pregnant and that he was going to walk out on me. This is his first child so i don't even know what's going on in his head. he wanted a child since we got together but apparently this was too much for him to handle. That's not all, we were waiting for his income tax to buy the stuff for the baby so the same day we got the money, the same day we had a huge argument and i told him to leave, well he did, that was a Friday he left and on Monday picked up his clothes and took the money (all of it) and left. So i don't know what's going to happened between us but i'm so sad and in shock
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Edited by darlys14 at 02/12/2009 4:47 PM PST
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Re: Anyone else out there single and expecting?
Jan 28, 2009 11:47 PM
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Not sure what state your in but look into having him pay for child support. Iam in Il and I wasn't gooing to even bother with it but my family said why let him off. For the next 5 years he has a weekly reminder that he has a child out there by somone else. The last 13 yrs were hard but my son is doing good as always knew his father and it never bothered him that he wasn't in his life but we both felt like we had that power to remind him that he has an older child. I might sound like revenge or being dispitful but it helps! Good luck
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Re: Anyone else out there single and expecting?
Jan 28, 2009 6:40 PM
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Im pregnant with my fourth and single (well going through a divorce) fun times
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Jamie S.+3
John (hubby)
Jonathan James (16 APR 2003)
Aidan Dean born 07 March 2005
Joshua Michael Smedstad (born 31 May 2007)
New baby Smedstad (EDD Sept 22 2009) http://www.myspace.com/jamiesmedstad
http://www.babyhomepage.com/aidandean
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Re: Anyone else out there single and expecting?
Jul 31, 2008 1:53 PM
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I am 20 weeks and single. I knew the guy practically less than a month before I found out I was pregnant. Yes, major lesson learned for me, but even more so, I had to find out who he really was because he left me right after I told him I was pregnant. He wanted me to have an abortion, and I don't believe in them, so I am forced to do it by myself. Perfect timing. I just graduated from college which means I am completely broke, and I was already struggling with my bills and expenses before this.
But there is something about learning and growing on your own that feels so empowering. I realize that once I accomplish this, I can accomplish anything! So I gave up trying to make him be there for our child and have set my eyes on doing what's best for me and my soon-to-be daughter.
No one said it'll be easy, but I know that in the end, it will definitely be worth it, and I'll be much stronger than I ever would've been without him. Keep your head up and realize the blessing that you have just to be able to mother and nurture God's greatest creation!!!
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Re: Anyone else out there single and expecting?
Jul 31, 2008 8:52 AM
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I was a single mother with my son. Yes it sucks ecspecially when we attended boy scouts i was the only single mother in that group and it hurt but I should my son how to throw a ball fish and build camp fires. I was told that my son needed a father figure in his life and I should not work as much so I could meet somone. Wrong theory for me!! i was very happy the way things were and to me it's very common to be a single parent. My son had plenty of male role models Uncles Grandpas etc. I figured as long as I provided for my son and gave him lots of love that was the most important things.
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Re: Anyone else out there single and expecting?
Jul 4, 2008 1:43 PM
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I would make him pick up his slack, don't give him any credit, he should be putting in as much as you. I hate lazy men!
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Re: Anyone else out there single and expecting?
Jul 3, 2008 11:48 AM
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HI I am kinda of in the same boat expect me and my guy are still togther and he feels like i should be able to do everything by myself. i work a full time job and its very hard for me to pick up after him.
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Re: Anyone else out there single and expecting?
Jul 3, 2008 9:21 AM
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I totally understand! At least your mother goes with you to the visit, mine doesn't, I am there alone in the waiting room...I just figure oh well...this is my time to be happy and it's his loss. I am just so thankful for my little one...what are you having?
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Re: Anyone else out there single and expecting?
Jul 2, 2008 4:31 PM
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I'm actually trying to ask a question, but I'm not sure how. Sorry to respond to you with no real response. Can anyone help?
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Re: Anyone else out there single and expecting?
Jul 2, 2008 9:36 AM
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it very difficult im 38 weeks now an have been onmy own since it start to go to the doc when every person thr is a couple an i go with my mother i hate it but then sit back an think this is the happiest i have been in a long time i have always been in a relationshiip an just found out that im better off alone just glad i have a supportive family cuz with out themi would be in (censor) trying to get threw it all an dont think i could!
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Re: Anyone else out there single and expecting?
Jul 1, 2008 7:17 PM
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Yes, I am 28 weeks and single. My ex and I split before I found out I was pregnant. He hasn't relaly been here...many things he's told me like, he didn't feel like paying child support, he wasn't interested, he wasn't in the mood to be in a relationship and didn't feel like loving anyone and he couldn't. When I told him what I was having, he said it's not what he wanted. I have just stopped speaking with him all together. Yes, it sucks to be alone and not have a man to come to my appointments with me and be thrilled that our child is going, but I am thankful that at least I can be a good mother to her. Everything will work out, and I know it's his loss...I hope y'all are having better days. I know it hurts because your child is a part of the father of your child, just be strong and know you are great women for taking on fully the role!
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Re: Anyone else out there single and expecting?
Jul 1, 2008 10:06 AM
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Yeah im in kinda tha same boat as you. I found out i was pregnant after i broken up with my boyfriend and he's not been supportive at all. I awlays feel kind of embarrassed when i meet people and they say "you two must be so excited". Yeah no more like just me. Fortunatly i do have my parents and they are very suportive of me and my decisions.
Is your pregnancy going well?
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Re: Anyone else out there single and expecting?
Jul 1, 2008 6:48 AM
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> So I am in my 18th week and it seems everyone I see
> is pregnant! And they all have a man at their side!
> This is proving to be very difficult after me and my
> baby's daddy had decided to split at 14 weeks!
> Anyone else going through this? I could really use
> e some support!!
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> Edited by keelahkat at 06/29/2008 7:13 PM PDT
I am 38 weeks pregnant and I am worried about money once my baby comes!
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Anyone else out there single and expecting?
Jun 28, 2008 11:53 AM
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So I am in my 18th week and it seems everyone I see is pregnant! And they all have a man at their side! This is proving to be very difficult after me and my baby's daddy had decided to split at 14 weeks! Anyone else going through this? I could really use some support!!
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Edited by keelahkat at 06/29/2008 7:13 PM PDT
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