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Re: Anyone else out there single and expecting?
Oct 5, 2009 7:39 PM
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Hello to everyone reading this.
I am so sorry to see how many women that have to go through this joyful time alone. I had to raise three kids by myself. My ex was extremly abusive and by the time we split I had a 3 year old, 1 year old and was pregnant. It was very tough to go it alone, we had to live in a shelter, I had to go through battles with his family because the didn't believe me and I had to go to court to keep my kids. But I will say that I wouldn't change it for the world. I love every instant I can look at my kids and know how happy they are to be with me. For all those that wish their men were back I want you to know that your baby will be better off having one parent love them with all their heart than having two parents that cant get along. I am now pregnant with my fourth child, a boy, and his father is a wonderful man who treats me and my children wonderfully. I hope that all you ladies find a way to make this a new start and know that even though the dad is not there you are definately not alone. So many women are going through the same problems, that's why we need places like this so we can support each other when things look bad.
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Asheville,NC
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9/20/09
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Re: Anyone else out there single and expecting?
Sep 21, 2009 12:57 AM
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Im 20 and im going to be a single mom!! Im going into my 26th week...My husband and babys father kicked me out and told me he wanted a divorce when i was little over 13 weeks!! This was such a surprise to me as well as my family. He wanted me to give our baby up for adoption which i wouldnt do cause i know even if he dont want to be a father i can be a good mother to him!!! I have had a lot of stress coming from this situation and my baby has medical problems...I feel like they were caused from all the stress he put me threw!! Its very up setting to have your babys father walk out on you and it seems to be wrose when he is also your husband! He will not give me any money to help support our child to get him the things he needs!! I have lots of support from family and friends and they are willing to help me get the things i need for my baby. But i feel its wrong to rely on them when they are not the ones who helped me make a baby!! The whole situation is up setting and i know its hard on every single mom...But these are them time that make us who we are and who we will become! We have to be strong for our babies and show them the way or no one else will!!!!
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Re: Anyone else out there single and expecting?
Aug 15, 2009 12:07 AM
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HI NOT SURE HOW THIS WEBSITE WORKS BUT WOULD LOVED TO HELP I WILL KEEP YOU IN MY PRAYERS I KNOW IT WILL WORK OUT WITHOUT A DOUBT EVERYTHING ALWAYS DOES. PLEASE KEEP YOUR HEAD UP AND KNOW THAT THERE WONT BE ANYTHING PUT ON YOU THAT CANT BEAR. HOLD YOU HEAD HIGH AND KEEP YOUR CHIN UP AND LEAD THEM BABIES BY EXAMPLE I KNOW YOU CAN DO IT. I LOVE YOU WE ARE SUPERWOMEN.
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Brooklyn,NY
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8/13/09
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Re: Anyone else out there single and expecting?
Aug 14, 2009 8:11 AM
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well her goes...this is my story from start to end...or a new chapter in my life...
I met him at 17 just a summer ago and became good buddies and decided to get to know eachother before anythng got serious...we went out one night and had one to many drinks and well nearly two months later i get the big news that im prgnt....
he gave me his full support and we became a couple thats when i moved in with him...hes 21...we had a great relationship i coudlnt ask for more...but when i was around 5 months he started treating me differently...he was extremely jealous and accused me of cheating constantly, all i did was laugh when he started with his BS. one day we get into a big argument and he shoves me off the couch...i nearly fell on my belly, from that moment on ive been living with my mom....well to cut the story short, i found out around the time that he was actually cheatiing on me with some chick who worked as a school aid at the school his nefew attends....i was so depressd and stressd out because i loved him and though he continued to give me support i wntd us to be a couple and get pass this stage...
I gave birth in January 2009 at 6 mnths and my son passd away 3 wks after birth, the father and i got back together because we felt this was a time where we needed eachother the most...about a week after our sons death he tells me that the girl he had a fling with is prgnt, i assumed that since that happend when i was 5 months she was about a month or so...i was very disappointed but he told me he didnt want to be in a relationship with her that he'll give her full support but he still wntd us to be together...i swallowed my pride and told him that im here for him no matter what because i loved him and we'll go through this together....well as the weeks went by him grew closer to her and my depression over the babys death grew worse...
we broke up again and decided just to be friends...but we couldnt contain our emotions and in i found out im prgnt again...i am happier than ever, he promised me his full support and did give me support but just until early july..we got into an agrument and his girlfriend got into it...things got intense and i decided to just leave them alone and but his girlfriend had other plans....that day i was on my way to the cementary to visit my sons grave....his girlfriend followed me to the cementary with his two sisters and two other girls...yes it was 5 of them and they all jumped me at my sons grave and he didnt believe me...i pressd charges on all of them including his girlfriend who's like about to pop anyday now...and because of the incident he doesnt want anything to do with me or my baby...
im pretty sure he definetly hates me now...why i have no clue but he does...all i did was be a wonderful girlfriend and give him nothing but sincere love, and ive always been honest with him about my emotions with all this situation...but aside from being lonely 24/7 im happy to say that i am calm with no stress or any problems like such...i do wish he were here with me experiencing the excitment of my prgncy like we did with my 1st....i wish i had someone here to rub my belly whenever the baby kicks and massage my belly when im bloated...give me back rubs and massage my feet when ive had long rough days... someone to wash the dishes and clean the house when im too drowsy to get out of bed...being prgnt and single isnt all that bad, it just helps to hve someone there when your need them to cuddle with at night...
im now 18 wks and i still have hope that one day he'll recognize all the effort i put into our relationship, and know that evne after all that hes put me through this year i dnt hate him, not even one bit...i just want us to have a sane relationship just for our child...but if by the time the babys here and he still doesnt want anything to do with us, i hve no problem with having him pay child support and doing this on my own...i can give my baby all the love and care she could possibly need in her life...
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Yours Truly,
PurplePassion
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Re: Anyone else out there single and expecting?
Jun 8, 2009 11:48 AM
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Brittany,
Apply for medicaid so at least the baby will have insurance also when they give you the paperwork make sure you apply for healthy start. St. Josephs offers a car seat class, WIC can help with the new baby and the 15 month old. Apply for food stamps as well. I am sure there are shelters somewhere in Tampa. Maybe a visit to DCF would help.
I just moved from Tampa, I was having issues with finding a job so I came back with my family. Healthy Start is just educational but they might be able to refer you to some other programs in the area. I know Medicaid can take a while to come through but you can get temporary medicaid to cover your basic prenatal visits. On 22nd street in North Tampa there is Health Department. You can go and apply for Medicaid and WIC there.
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Re: Anyone else out there single and expecting?
Jun 5, 2009 9:40 PM
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dear Brittany and anyone else going through the hardships that you are, I do not knowif you havegotten any kind of assistance, or what is available where you are. there is so much available and i wish i were closer so i could help Dont be afraid to call a WOMENS CRISIS CENTER HOTLINE, I HAD TO STAY IN A SHELTER FOR A MONTH with my 5 month old preemie son when his dad started throwing thingsand drinking all the time. the women that helped me were great they refered me to all kinds of local services, like welfare, so i would have money, the helped me find an aparment, they knew women that helped if i just needed a break, so that my son would be watched. It was great to be somewhere safe while i picked up the pieces. please ask someone for help, also they helped other moms with things like car seats and baby clothes, and they have food, and they have clothes you can wear for interviews, and emergency things on hand like infant tylenol. your babys are worth it , also there are other programs here like the hope center where you can go watch parenting and developemental movies to earn points towards baby items. WIC - women infants and children help with food vouchers, farmers market coupons?, breast pumps and formula. GO GET IT FOR THOSE BABIES !!!!! YOU CAN GET THROUGH THIS AND GIVE THEM HUGS AND KISSES FROM ME TOO!!!!
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From:
tampa fl
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5/30/09
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Re: Anyone else out there single and expecting?
May 30, 2009 9:31 PM
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hi,
im 34weeks and going threw what feels like the worse time of my life. dont get me wrong i love the fact that having a baby in july but i dont like the fact that i have nothing for her to come into this world with. im homeless with a 15month old already and looking for employment now. my family completely abandonded me when i wouldnt give up my baby. i have no income whats so ever or even anything for this new baby to even come home in the hospital with, no bed no stroller no clothes NOTHING. does anyone have any advise or something they could offer it would be greatly appreciated.
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From:
Hudson Valley
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5/9/09
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Re: Anyone else out there single and expecting?
May 27, 2009 11:58 AM
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Thanks for your reply- Josh'smom-
I am due any day now and scared outa my mind. yes I have te support of family and friends- its definitely not the same as havinga a wonderful husband who is interested and involved and can share in the excitement and nervousness of having a baby. I have faith that I can do IT alone- but I can't help thinking how nice it wouldbe to share this with someone special.
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Re: Anyone else out there single and expecting?
May 27, 2009 11:37 AM
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Hi all,
Im Rachel, Im 26, My baby boy is Joshua and he is three weeks old today. While we have plunty of support from my family and friends I am a single parent, alothough it is by choose to not include his father it is just as hard, but it is doable!
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From:
winter park fl
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5/21/09
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Re: Anyone else out there single and expecting?
May 21, 2009 4:56 PM
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hay, waits up girl
i went throw not having no support, struggalin,with my first child hes now three. it wasnt very hard being the only parent there for my son. i didnt have much help living in motel rooms not even from my parents didnt no one help me period. then i married my husband and got pregant with our 2 month old boy. an i tell u what it seems to be easyer raising a child by ur self then with a partener cause ur constunly bumping heads about what to do an what not to do when it comes to handaling an raising ur child...
i tell u them best thing ive ever done was let my first sons dad do him an i keep no strings attached(child support).
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Time Flys Injoy It While It Last.......
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From:
Hudson Valley
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5/9/09
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Re: Anyone else out there single and expecting?
May 9, 2009 5:04 PM
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HI there- I too am single and expecting- I am entering my 38th week and am completely pissed and disappointed over how men lack such emotion and care over something they helped create.
The expectant father and I had a good friendship for about a year and then one nite.... ahem.. l1 thing lead to another... and 38 weeks later he and I recognize that we are completely wrong for each other and live in separate bedrooms and he is moving out of state by the end of the summer ( as soon as he saves $ to go)
He has not given me a dime for this baby or groceries or anything,
He's completely broke and spreading negative energy all around this apt. He doesnt want to be in the delivery room, or change diapers, or live in the same state as us. BUT HE WANTS TO NAME THE BABY??!!!????!!! what a psycho!
I cant wait till he goes so I can get on with my life and enjoy being a new mom then take him to court for child support! I am soooooooooo angry and hurt.
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Re: Anyone else out there single and expecting?
May 8, 2009 7:35 PM
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im a single mom my boyfriend walked out on me when i refused to get an abortion. he refuses to believe im really pregnant we live in different states now and i dont know how to get thru to him..this baby is coming
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From:
Mount Shasta, CA
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2/27/09
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Re: Anyone else out there single and expecting?
Feb 27, 2009 9:08 PM
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For all intents and purposes I am singe. The babys father right now wants nothing to do with the baby. We are still living together but I am getting ready to move out. I told him he was no help or support what so ever and his reply was " I give you a place to sleep instead of being out on the street, what more do you want?" I hope that he decides to be a part of the babys life but if not I am ready to raise my baby by myself.
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2/20/09
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Re: Anyone else out there single and expecting?
Feb 20, 2009 11:43 AM
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I am in the same spot as you... for the most part, we broke up but we still live together and he is not dating anyone else but its hard even though he is still around its like hes not. he goes out a lot with his friends and this is my second child and i think im more scared with this one then my first.. its hard i know what you mean..
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Re: Anyone else out there single and expecting?
Feb 12, 2009 8:18 PM
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try yahoo groups there is one that freecycles stuff including gently used baby stuff.
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