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Re: I'm so sad on mother's day!!!
May 12, 2008 3:21 AM
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Well, yesterday was part disaster. When I got off from my 12hr shift I went to my grandma's house b/c she cooked a big meal for all the mothers in our family. That was nice! She keeps my son while i'm at work. So, I got to play with him a little bit. Logan was so pre-occupied with the other kids he didn't give me much notice. He's only 2, so his attention span isn't long yet. Lol. My husband came over and my step daughter, (which we have full custody of) She's 10. We have had her since she was around 2. My husband got me a mothers day card. It was a huge card. Not the kind I could put in an album. It's the thought that counts. But, he didn't even include our son on picking out the card! And the card said " to: Jenny"
I maybe am being picky, but I thought yesterday was mother's day not Jenny's day. My son don't call me Jenny! I was a tad bit offended that he didn't include my son on it. That was the whole point!!!!! So, we went home and argued some more! Until about 2am and I had to get up at 5 to be at work at 6. What a mothers day! I'll remember that when fathers day rolls around! Maybe i'll have to work & accidentally be late on it so he thinks he isn't getting anything! Lol. Oh what fun i'll have. I don't know if I could be so mean. I don't think I have it in me. I think about the kids when it comes to stuff like that. I don't want to teach them to do that stuff. So, I don't know what i'll do for fathers day. I guess we'll see when it rolls around. Thanks for the support. It's much needed and appreciated!
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Happy Momma to: Logan Keith - 4/21/06 10 lbs 3.3 oz. 21 1/2 inches long. Pregnant w/my second baby boy! Due Sept. 12,2008!!! Landon Scott is on the way! I'm so excited!!!
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Re: I'm so sad on mother's day!!!
May 11, 2008 7:08 PM
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Hey mom2be, i can understand where you are coming from! And no i don't think that you are being selfish in any way. My situation last year was somewhat different. But I can understand where you are coming from. My husband and I have been together for almost 3 years. I haven't had any kids of my own yet I am pregnant with my first. But for 3 years i have been helping him raise his three kids from previous marriages. I have treated all 3 like they were my own and Loved them. I have played every part of a mom to them that there is other then giving birth to them. SPecailly the one that lives with us. I've been told a million times i'm the first real mother that she's known. well last year for mothers day, my husband didn't say or do one thing for me, Instead he just basically ignored the day and treated it like any other day of the year. And yes i understood i wasn't these kids mom. But i have done everything a mom does for them, and the fact that nothing was done at all just really tore me up inside last year i cried privately for so long and dreaded this year because of it. I had decided that i was going to make a point this year if nothing was done. I decided if it was not mentioned or anything then i was going t ostop doing what a mother does to make a point to my husband. But it turned out alot differently thankfully. I know it's not the same situation in any way. But i can understand.
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3 Step children
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My First Cecilia Jo EDD July 4, 2008
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Re: I'm so sad on mother's day!!!
May 11, 2008 6:03 PM
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Hi mome2b. I don't think that you are being selfish or spoilt for just wanting a card or a simple gesture that you are worth the trouble. I do think that your husband is being a total jerk to not only not get you a card but to complain and blame you for wanting one. Mother's day is only once a year and it's the time to show appreciation to your wife and mom. How could he even treat you like that on this day especially when you have to go to work too. I am really sorry about what you are going through. I know how emotional we can become when we are pregnant but what your husband did was outrages. I would be angry with him even if I weren't pregnant. Hang in there girl, your little boy loves you. Just focus on that until your husband comes to his senses. You know what to do on father's day 
Have a happy mother's day anyhow.
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Sonia - mom Remi - dad Christopher - April 2, 2006 7 pounds 9 ounces 48.5cm Second addition - EDD Sept 23 Another boy it seems.
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I'm so sad on mother's day!!!
May 11, 2008 8:07 AM
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I know I should be more appreciative. But, this is the thing. I'm stuck at work and can't be home with Logan. My husband doesn't get the fact that the little things mean more than the big things. Example: We celebrated yesterday because I knew I would have to work today. My in-laws took us to dinner. That was nice. My husband the great planner he is gave me some money and said knock yourself out. ($100.00) Don't get me wrong. The money was nice. But, there wasn't any effort to it. I wanted a card from Logan. I go and make a fuss for my mother in law and my mom and grandmother and family and get them a CARD signed by my sweet Logan. And my husband knows I like the little stuff like that. I just don't think there is anything better than getting a card where Logan has scribbled something in it! That's as good as it gets for me. I have been crying all morning. I wish I was at home with Logan. He makes me feel loved. When I told my husband why I was sad today he told me I was being selfish and I should take that money and buy a thousand cards with it. I told him I shouldn't have to buy my own mother's day card. He got so mad and hung up on me. I really don't think it's too much trouble to want a card from my son! Why don't he see the bigger picture? I want to make some memories. Now if he gets me a card I know it's just because he's feeling forced to do it. It's the small things that mean so much. I just got off the phone with him again. He thinks i'm a B***h for even being upset about it. He also told me i complain too much and need to be happy with what I got. He let me give him a hair cut (which he needed) yesterday and said that was part of my mothers day present because he didn't want one then. He said that i'm gonna cause us to split up acting like this. That's just what I wanted to hear! I really get depressed thinking about the way he reacted when I told him I wanted something as simple as a card. He could even sit down and let the kids make me a card. That's even better than what you can buy! He hung up on me again! I just don't feel like he's being loving and supportive. I know i'm pregnant and emotional. But, he know's the one thing I like on holiday's and birthday's is a card. We go through this every year every holiday and birthday. He don't get the fact that I can't put 100.00 dollar bill in a scrap book and look back and say aww that's what I got for mothers day in 2008. I am sentimantal. I like to save my cards so I can look back and see the heart that was put into it. He said he's gonna get a stupid card! His words not mine. I just know that it's gonna be because he feels required to not because he wants to. From now on i'm just gonna take the boys shopping myself and not worry about it. I'll at least have pleasure in knowing that they picked out the card and present and signed it to make it special. I've cried so much my face feels raw. This mother's day could have been more special with something as simple as a little heart and thought. Thanks to my dear husband. I'm sorry ladies. It just feels nice to vent. Maybe some of ya'll do think i'm acting like a spoiled brat. If so, that's your opinion and your entitled to it. It's just nice to talk to someone. I'm not the type to bottle it up inside. Thanks for listening. (reading) Any comments are welcome.
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Happy Momma to: Logan Keith - 4/21/06 10 lbs 3.3 oz. 21 1/2 inches long. Pregnant w/my second baby boy! Due Sept. 12,2008!!! Landon Scott is on the way! I'm so excited!!!
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