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Re: Single mom needs help disciplining 2 year old
Apr 9, 2008 5:25 PM
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It might help if you reinforce having him use his words instead of whining, crying, screaming or pointing. For example, he wants his sippy cup and starts crying and points at it. You say "Are you thirsty? Yes? Do you want your sippy cup? I'd like for you to ask me for your sippy cup. May I have my sippy cup?" If he throws a gigantic tantrum, just say "Well then we'll wait for you to calm down." I'm sure it won't work like magic, but it might help, if only a little, which is better than not at all. If he could communicate better, his tantrums should decline... should being the magic word. If only it were that easy......
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Re: Single mom needs help disciplining 2 year old
Mar 14, 2008 4:52 PM
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I agree with the ladies here. put him in that highchair with something fun to do. My son is 21 months and he's a fusser honey and he's got both parents in the house, so don't think it's just a single mom thing. that fact is, he love him momma  he wants you all the time but you gotta teach him it can't be that way all the time. your gonna feel bad, it's apart of parenting, but the reality is, he's gotta learn how to be a big boy and occupy his time with other things while mommy is busy. the ideas here are great! I'm gonna even incoporate them into our routine. may I also suggest talking to him while your busy. tell him about what your doing "mommy's cooking chicken and corn". engage him, like "what's a chicken say?" and make clucking noises so he laughs. if he thinks it's fun to watch you cook, maybe he wont act like it's the end of the world that your not holding him. But honey that holding him during cook needs to end today. if he wanna sit there and cry, let him sit there and cry and you keep working around him. the more attention you pay him while he's crying, the more he'll keep it up! at some point you'll want to pick him u and talk to him, but don't just hold him. tell he what's wrong. kids are little people, so talk to him like a little person. "you gotta stop all that crying. mommy can not hold you right now while shes cooking", something like that.
if you are dating, and you're letting this guy come over, then you obviously don't mind him being around you son, and niether does he, so get him involved. when he arrives, you all should play together for a while before you have alone time. that way your son can get used to him and learn how to share him with mommy. When Xavier starts up, we tell him no fussing. he keeps it up, he's on time out. It's time to show him you mean business about that fussing mess. so my dear, wipe those beautiful eyes, tap into that amazing mommy magic that's in every great woman, and make it happen! we are here if you need us!
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Re: Single mom needs help disciplining 2 year old
Mar 10, 2008 8:58 PM
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I use time out with my 2 year old son. I put him in a chair and every time he crawls out I put him back. Eventually he knows that if he gets down he is just going right back. I usually use time out for hitting or biting. I only sit him there for 2 minutes. I will increase the time as he gets older. I also don't believe in letting them cry it out. It breaks my heart. I try happy distractions.
Maybe you could put him in his highchair when you get home and give him some crayons and a coloring book. My son loves to color and putting him in his highchair allows me to get some stuff done while he is having fun. So we both win. I also give him a snack while he is coloring. Like some raisons or chease sticks. Sometimes I get his blocks out and get him started on building something, that usually gives me a little bit of time to get some supper on. He also loves to read books, so I usually lay out a bunch of books and get him started with them as well.
Good luck I hope some of my tips help
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Avery - age 2
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Re: Single mom needs help disciplining 2 year old
Mar 6, 2008 7:40 AM
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My son will turn two years old in May, and is already very familiar with time out. I have been told that one minute per year of age is about right. We do 2 minutes because he is almost 2 yrs old. This is used for times when he does things like hitting, throwing toys, etc. after he has had a warning and does it again.
As for preparing dinner with a clingy child. I totally understand! If you can, find little things that your child can help with in the kitchen. I will measure ingredients then let my son help dump them into the bowl/pot/pan. Also I have a few special toys like playdough, and a special coloring book (with washable crayons) that he only gets to play with while I am cooking. We also have a old cell phone that he only gets when I am on the phone. My son also still loves to sit in the kitchen and use a wooden spoon to play pots like drums while I cook.
Hope this helps.
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Single mom needs help disciplining 2 year old
Mar 4, 2008 10:20 AM
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I'm in tears today and need some desparate help. My son will be turning 2 this month.
I have trouble discipling my son. in fact I don't. I just say "no" and the reason why he isin't suppose to do it. I work full time and he goes to daycare. When I pick him up he is always whiny. I have to cook with him in my left arm. He tugs at me and wants me to play with him while I'm trying to get supper ready or wines when I put him down. I am not sure why, but I do spend time with him after daycare when we get home, but as soon as I walk away he is still wanting me. He can't talk yet.
He has always received one on one attention when he's home, however, now it's harder because I've begun dating someone who visits. So if I'm preparing a cup of coffee or having a discussion or something and my attention isin't always on him. So he wines and cries until I pick him up and points me to take him somewhere else. Does anyone have any ideas?
Anything? I feel very guilty ignoring him when he whines. Plus it drives me crazy and I give in. How long should I let him wine for? Also, I will not put him in a crib and let him cry it out. Forget it. I won't do that. any other ideas?
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